Jul 11

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This guy at a networking event last night told me I “looked disgusting!” So this is what I’m going to do about it…

We’re all about positive body image here at Everything Healthy TV so when something happened to me that was a total affront to my self worth, I had to share… I went to a networking event last night to support my friend who was hosting the event.  When I left my house, I felt pretty good about the way I looked.  I was wearing black “skinny jeans”, and a pink, orange and black halter top that really showed off my shoulders and neck.  I found a free parking spot and figured it was my lucky night!!  Well maybe it was and maybe it wasn’t.

So get a load of this…

A guy at the event looked me up and down, cringed and said, “You look disgusting.” For real!! A 50+ year old guy, who I think is somewhat well educated, told me I looked disgusting.  Let’s call him Richard – DICK for short.

I’m not going to lie, Dick hurt my feelings

I’m not going to lie, Dick hurt my feelings.  It also didn’t escape me that I’m the heaviest I’ve been in my whole life and that the pants I was wearing were too tight which is a 100% a result of me avoiding going shopping to buy a larger size.  I felt belittled and sad and metaphorically punched in the stomach.  I told my friend about Dick and she has banned him from future events – Thanks friend!!  I left shortly thereafter, went home and felt “disgusting” the rest of the night.  I know I need to lose weight, but I didn’t THINK I looked “disgusting.”

Happy, curvy, hope bertram

Look Dick – I’m HAPPY even though I’m a little chunky right now!

I’m the happiest I’ve ever been

Once I thought about it, it also struck me that, in a lot of ways, this is the happiest and most self confidant I’ve ever been.   I just ended a 10 year relationship with a guy who wasn’t treating me right, my business is going phenomenally well and is only going to get better as I create new partnerships.  I have past partners and clients referring business my way, which always feels good.   My life is in a good place.  Of course, there’s always room for improvement, but I’m feeling very comfortable in my own skin.  Mostly.

You can fix “disgusting” on the outside, but not the inside

Then the more I thought about it, the more I felt sorry for Dick.  I can improve my health and fitness and ultimately weight, but he’ll always be disgusting on the inside.  I’m not sure what would make a man his age so superficial – I thought we’ve all learned that there’s so much more to someone than the way they look on the outside.  I feel sorry for Dick because he’s so shallow that he’s missing out on connecting with truly great people because he’s focusing on the surface and people’s real beauty is somewhere much deeper.

Thanks Dick!

So the more I thought about it, the more I realized that thinking about it was just going to make me miserable.  I had a great boss at GE, who I’ve mentioned before.  We weren’t allowed to come to her with a problem unless we had at least two proposed solutions.  So thank you Dick for spurring me into action.  Your unkind words will produce a positive outcome.  I will be better off because of it.

This is what I’m going to do

Love myself the way I am right now!

I look perfect, just the way I am. I do want to improve my health and fitness and lose weight, but I’m doing so to get more healthy and I know that however I look on the outside, doesn’t determine my worth on the inside.

Share fun, flirty girl fashions

I’ve been meaning to do this for a long time.  Just because I’m overweight doesn’t mean I can’t look good.  It might take a little more effort than 50 lbs ago when I could just slip anything on and have it look great, but I’ll be sharing a video soon on tips on how us curvy gals can work it.

Get serious

I need to get serious about my health and fitness.  I keep on saying I do, but when it comes right down to it, I’m not tracking what I eat or working out enough.  It’s time to put the pedal to the metal!  I have no idea of what this is going to look like and I’ll likely be reaching out for help.  I know I’m going to start tracking what I eat in Myfitnesspal.com and also sign-up for weight training at some point, but beyond that, I’m a little lost, but will figure it out.


I’m going to forgive Dick for, well being a dick. It’s all good.  It woke me up and realized it was time to take action!

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